An advertorial on porn in the Telegraph - and its varied comments - invited another opportunity to reflect on some of what is within the idea of porn, association-addiction and manipulations of experience.
One can discern the quality of any civilisation, society or person by
the regard in which they hold the feminine. If the power of the
receptive is denied, subjugated and overridden by a disconnected
assertiveness of 'power' over - then slaves to fear seek to make a slave
of Life and believe they are free thereby.
They already have
their comeuppance. There is no punishment but what we make-believe
ourself and together. But that said, if our make-believe is believed to
hurt and hate and kill the truth of our love - then that belief will
dissociate us from ourself. This is part of the human conditioning. The
split mind does not know its source and is fed and feeds on adapting and
exploiting life rather than being and sharing it.
The nature of
addiction is similar to that of manipulation - indeed the manipulation
of one's experience (one's relations and one's world) for a private
experience in place of a truly shared one, is the way one cuts off or
'protects' from an intimacy of being, for the sake of a PRIVATE
possession or satisfaction. Mutual private satisfactions pass for relationships in a masquerade.
Such
then is defined (by its act) as 'joy' - or indeed protection from pain
of boredom, doubt or discomfort. A 'joy 'that is not integrated or
unified, but is conflicted, dis-integrating to a segregated sense of a
temporary 'hit' of an energetically felt connection that is immediately
gone and thus calls for repeating or indeed expanding so as to prolong
its dedication and association. The pattern of desire, stress and
release becomes a ritual compulsion when choosing to persist in a
mechanically joyless act whilst at the same time insisting one is a
victim.
Wherever there is a giving away of power, there is no
shortage of other 'hungrys' willing to 'take you over' - whether
imaginary or corporate, for what you give out sets the value by which
you get back.
The world offers many examples of being taken over
by ideas, beliefs and definitions of self that are negative or
disintegrating. But to affect you, you have to subscribe to them. Joy
and truth are in bed together and there is nothing secret or shameful in
yielding into a wholly embracing love.
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Tuesday, 29 October 2013
Tuesday, 23 July 2013
Porn, society, censorship and Angels
(An Independent article that I could not get this comment to insert into)
The once private aspects of our mind - of our collective mind - is becoming public.
Some of this are desires that are socially unacceptable or surrounded by taboo, inhibition and dare I say it - a relational consensual willingness.
Some are simply a wandering fascination in what is still 'taboo', out of bounds, hidden from sight, as if one were private in the act of looking.
The mind conditions itself by what you use it for. If you cultivate an appetite for fantasy 'satisfactions' in porn or shopping or any other realm of activity, then you cultivate a mode of private personal control that you get a 'hit' from and then a miss - or a trough in which to look again for the 'hit'. Not everyone has an obsessive addictive approach. Some can spread their addiction across many private satisfactions, like a gourmet, and keep also there actual relational life in some degree of balance. This is like having a compartment or many compartments for different aspects of your personality - but not losing cohesion among them so as to become dissociated in the sense of clinically insane.
What fantasy does by definition, is substitute for actuality. Escape into fantasy is an expression of a lack of joy in the currently framed moment of existence. The uncovering of a pattern of virtual self in its own made up story is a breadcrumb trail of reintegration - if reintegration, peace and joy is actually the accepted desire.
In ultimate sense true being is not damaged by anything because all the ideas by which such experience was had are ideas that are chosen and experienced. But the mind can seem to become victim to its own ideas and suffer as if compelled and victim to forces beyond its control. At this level, trust is the uncovering of an integrity of being that is both ground and guide. What you give out is what you get back - always, without exception. This is a current reality - of what you are currently putting out being the nature of what is reflected as experience. but the surface mentality that identifies a sense of personal control as survival and sanity is by default in denial of its so called 'unconsciousness'. So we are as ones "who know not what they do".
Beneath the surface, beneath the fear and guilt which taboos against looking within, is the be ing of love- apparently suffering the fantasy of our collective 'reality'. But within the loving nature of what we have mostly forgot, is the Angelic realm. One simply stops energizing the jamming chatter, to let a natural whole Communion/communication resume in an awareness that was momentarily distracted by grasping at some image or object or experience as if it could or need be possessed.
The once private aspects of our mind - of our collective mind - is becoming public.
Some of this are desires that are socially unacceptable or surrounded by taboo, inhibition and dare I say it - a relational consensual willingness.
Some are simply a wandering fascination in what is still 'taboo', out of bounds, hidden from sight, as if one were private in the act of looking.
The mind conditions itself by what you use it for. If you cultivate an appetite for fantasy 'satisfactions' in porn or shopping or any other realm of activity, then you cultivate a mode of private personal control that you get a 'hit' from and then a miss - or a trough in which to look again for the 'hit'. Not everyone has an obsessive addictive approach. Some can spread their addiction across many private satisfactions, like a gourmet, and keep also there actual relational life in some degree of balance. This is like having a compartment or many compartments for different aspects of your personality - but not losing cohesion among them so as to become dissociated in the sense of clinically insane.
What fantasy does by definition, is substitute for actuality. Escape into fantasy is an expression of a lack of joy in the currently framed moment of existence. The uncovering of a pattern of virtual self in its own made up story is a breadcrumb trail of reintegration - if reintegration, peace and joy is actually the accepted desire.
In ultimate sense true being is not damaged by anything because all the ideas by which such experience was had are ideas that are chosen and experienced. But the mind can seem to become victim to its own ideas and suffer as if compelled and victim to forces beyond its control. At this level, trust is the uncovering of an integrity of being that is both ground and guide. What you give out is what you get back - always, without exception. This is a current reality - of what you are currently putting out being the nature of what is reflected as experience. but the surface mentality that identifies a sense of personal control as survival and sanity is by default in denial of its so called 'unconsciousness'. So we are as ones "who know not what they do".
Beneath the surface, beneath the fear and guilt which taboos against looking within, is the be ing of love- apparently suffering the fantasy of our collective 'reality'. But within the loving nature of what we have mostly forgot, is the Angelic realm. One simply stops energizing the jamming chatter, to let a natural whole Communion/communication resume in an awareness that was momentarily distracted by grasping at some image or object or experience as if it could or need be possessed.
Thursday, 7 June 2012
Worshipping (and getting lost in) image
The practice of using others (and Life), for one's private fantasy purposes is ubiquitous in every aspect of life and generally is socially invisible. It is a part of human consciousness that judges and plays out privately held meaning upon others, and the world, either in a mutual trade, or by coercion of a manipulative intent.
To give priority to fantasy over truth, is to disregard truth and to be out of true. This is the same as disregarding the heart in which a real relationship or communication extends the true or innate qualities of being into life. It is always a dissonant experience and any relief is alsways momentary. It is not at peace in itself except when emptied of desire - but desire is an expression of being alive, though the desire of addiction is to suppress or escape the conflicted meaninglessness of a life out of true, in thought and action.
To gain the world is to lose our Soul. This is simply self evident but not while the empty promise of the world is given priority. Stimulation is an attempted substitute for life that hollows out and reduces life to surface forms. This can be readily observed. The seeming freedom and hit of getting private satisfaction - even amidst consenting trade or contract is simply feeding an addictive nature that puts fulfillment in externals instead of abiding in a wholeness that gives itself wholly in love. In love we are undefended to our own being and so our being communicates itself wholly and without coercion. Love contains within itself the guidance to freely release what is not real and embrace the moment wholly. No image can be made of love and no rules can be made for love. This is what we forget.
Moralizing is a kind of attempt to control - and is also a fantasy practice in attempt to control with guilt. Guilt always undermines and blocks any true expression of life - but the insidious nature of hidden guilt means that it maintains a fantasy of freedom from guilt within the illusion of a private self will. This 'hidden' will is an act by which we seem to live separate and special - whether seeming to prevail or to be acted upon. The attempt to act this out without guilt is simply the fuelling of the fire. Guitlessness is not self-wilful, but is of an innocence of being. In all things we can learn to discern where we are coming from and so can see the nature of private thinking or fantasy at work in our own experience and evaluate its fruit. Until we see it, it runs as a mechanical identification with forms - and a dream of a life is allowed to usurp a true love.
To give priority to fantasy over truth, is to disregard truth and to be out of true. This is the same as disregarding the heart in which a real relationship or communication extends the true or innate qualities of being into life. It is always a dissonant experience and any relief is alsways momentary. It is not at peace in itself except when emptied of desire - but desire is an expression of being alive, though the desire of addiction is to suppress or escape the conflicted meaninglessness of a life out of true, in thought and action.
To gain the world is to lose our Soul. This is simply self evident but not while the empty promise of the world is given priority. Stimulation is an attempted substitute for life that hollows out and reduces life to surface forms. This can be readily observed. The seeming freedom and hit of getting private satisfaction - even amidst consenting trade or contract is simply feeding an addictive nature that puts fulfillment in externals instead of abiding in a wholeness that gives itself wholly in love. In love we are undefended to our own being and so our being communicates itself wholly and without coercion. Love contains within itself the guidance to freely release what is not real and embrace the moment wholly. No image can be made of love and no rules can be made for love. This is what we forget.
Moralizing is a kind of attempt to control - and is also a fantasy practice in attempt to control with guilt. Guilt always undermines and blocks any true expression of life - but the insidious nature of hidden guilt means that it maintains a fantasy of freedom from guilt within the illusion of a private self will. This 'hidden' will is an act by which we seem to live separate and special - whether seeming to prevail or to be acted upon. The attempt to act this out without guilt is simply the fuelling of the fire. Guitlessness is not self-wilful, but is of an innocence of being. In all things we can learn to discern where we are coming from and so can see the nature of private thinking or fantasy at work in our own experience and evaluate its fruit. Until we see it, it runs as a mechanical identification with forms - and a dream of a life is allowed to usurp a true love.
Thursday, 19 April 2012
Children grow up addicted to online porn sites
There are degrees of porn - but the net is rampant with hard porn. It has gross aspects - and also absurd meaningless aspects. An emptying ritual. Somewhere in consciousness is an echo of paradise in sexual delight - and yet a sense of paradise lost or denied can lead to addictive attempts to cover over pain of lovelessness, of loneliness.
There is a curiosity in things that are taboo, but this can lead to look again, and again - if you have nothing better to do.
Use of bodies and images of bodies to enact private fantasies is not thought to be hazardous and saturates society on many levels, and is encouraged and even considered healthy in some contexts.
But those who discern its hazard are those who are in a truly loving relationship, because love overlooks form, and yet shares paradise.
The mind that disallows or denies love from its own awareness is sick, but does not know it is sick. It tends to protect its sickness. Yet we do know - but our mind binds and blinds us.
There is a curiosity in things that are taboo, but this can lead to look again, and again - if you have nothing better to do.
Use of bodies and images of bodies to enact private fantasies is not thought to be hazardous and saturates society on many levels, and is encouraged and even considered healthy in some contexts.
But those who discern its hazard are those who are in a truly loving relationship, because love overlooks form, and yet shares paradise.
The mind that disallows or denies love from its own awareness is sick, but does not know it is sick. It tends to protect its sickness. Yet we do know - but our mind binds and blinds us.
Monday, 31 October 2011
Internet porn is a poison seeping through society. We can - and must - stop its spread?
Beware the self righteous seduction to hate and exclude!
Seek rather to discern the nature of a true sanity.
Pornography expresses a mind-separation of sex from loving, and reflects a fantasy of sexual or power relations without context of real relationship.
What one 'gets' from any relationship - can only be the disregard of love's sanity for the indulging of a fantasy relationship. To love a fantasy is to be worship loneliness.
It can be seen that those who indulge private fantasies make 'society' with fantasy 'others' who subscribe to the same kinds of desire. But such 'relationship' is actually an agreement to keep love, real communication, OUT - or limited so as to give priority to a private satisfaction. That such is destructive of real relationship and fails to actually satisfy, but instead invites desensitizing repetition and addiction - is DENIED by the wish to persist in hiding from real relationship.
The true nature of self in relationship is NOT consuming, getting or manipulating.
Inviting such true context allows all else to align of Itself.
In Peace
Brian
Seek rather to discern the nature of a true sanity.
Pornography expresses a mind-separation of sex from loving, and reflects a fantasy of sexual or power relations without context of real relationship.
What one 'gets' from any relationship - can only be the disregard of love's sanity for the indulging of a fantasy relationship. To love a fantasy is to be worship loneliness.
It can be seen that those who indulge private fantasies make 'society' with fantasy 'others' who subscribe to the same kinds of desire. But such 'relationship' is actually an agreement to keep love, real communication, OUT - or limited so as to give priority to a private satisfaction. That such is destructive of real relationship and fails to actually satisfy, but instead invites desensitizing repetition and addiction - is DENIED by the wish to persist in hiding from real relationship.
The true nature of self in relationship is NOT consuming, getting or manipulating.
Inviting such true context allows all else to align of Itself.
In Peace
Brian
Sunday, 6 February 2011
Monday, 20 December 2010
Lovelessness and pornography
Lovelessness - asserts it freedoms to abuse, exploit and worship fantasies upon life, upon others upon ones own body - as a substitute for real relationship - which it knows nothing of - and fears. It knows not an honouring, trust-growing, undefended, and loving relationship and lives out a distorted fantasy life in secret.
Sexual loving is a beautiful language of being. Our bodies are wonderful communicators of loving presence - as we allow ourselves to let go of strategic self interest - getting something or getting away from something - and discover ourselves caring, playing, and holding each other. Oneness is not a climax - it is the very ground of our being - shared. There is so much more to life than what we think we know - and that is experienced a wonder, beauty and a glorious quality of being - of a communioned life.
Lovelessness is a disconnected sense of self-lack in isolation that restlessly seeks stimulating distraction in order to feel alive - and thus deadens itself and calls it 'satisfaction'. It then ups the stakes in order to get a hit or becomes addicted to reenacting empty rituals. Fantasy life that fucks up the capacity to look beyond outer forms and discover the truly wondrous nature of love - because a society that has become fearful has turned its back on love and instead seeks selfishly to grasp at whatever offers makes its pain subside - and hates to open to a light of a shared awareness. It hates to love - and loves to hate.
By being available outside a cultural context of relationship, pornography becomes culturally acceptable currency. Women have their labia cut to look like the girls in the porn. College kids emulating the porn scenarios that are purveyed as if women are dirty slut bitches and fit only to fist, fuck and cum all over as if that were a gift!
When does playing in - and exploring boundaries become the deception and abduction or coercion of sex slaves? Is it when we care more about maintaining our own fantasies than letting the truth of another - or of our self - interfere?
I am writing here because there is a much larger conversation about our sexuality, than socially induced consumerism, that extends a 'culture' of exploitation, manipulation, and usury - and calls it freedom. It is not talked openly - but referred to in comic tones - that let a sort of slapstick, gloss over and sanitize it as a 'bit o'fun'.
Now if a demeaning and malicious lie about you is propagated as if it were truth - you would not subscribe to it - nor would you nurture it - nor would you defend its right to be equal to the truth. Instead you would subscribe to that which promotes appreciation of truth, and invest your care and value in it. You might struggle long to come to your senses though as the cultural pressures suggest that its ok to fuck yourself up - or indeed anyone else - because we are free of outdated and phoney moral sensibilities - and "We are all individuals".
Distractions that serve to cover the dissonance of human life do not really give freedom - they bring hollow emptiness and addiction. However, with those whose full intent is to wilfully assert themselves as they are not - and declare themselves self-content - it is vain to argue. Life is a teaching - learning adventure - and we are free to learn through pain as well as joy. Forgiveness is a real release from guilt when one is willing to accept and share it. No one is damned but by their own refusal.
What we demonstrate in our lives - is the culture that we share - particularly to those who we welcome into the world and pass on the ways we know. All are free to learn according to their own heart's guidance - no matter what experiences we have - we ultimately choose the meaning it has for us.
But the Meaning that is uncovered that truly serves us all is not one of dressing up in the dark so as to play out our own psychodrama - but of a genuine kindness, care and attention.
I see the raising of the curtains of a false privacy as the disclosure to ourselves of ourselves - and this IS a real opportunity. Because amidst our self spun script of a life we act out as if it were real - and discover perhaps a lot later - that we chose against our own heart's desire.
There may be a lot of money in selling porn - but there is only an undermining of commonwealth. Is there a place for it? Of course there is - but if it is not kept in its place it usurps ... the capacity of Soul to feel and know life directly.
Thanks for your attention
Sexual loving is a beautiful language of being. Our bodies are wonderful communicators of loving presence - as we allow ourselves to let go of strategic self interest - getting something or getting away from something - and discover ourselves caring, playing, and holding each other. Oneness is not a climax - it is the very ground of our being - shared. There is so much more to life than what we think we know - and that is experienced a wonder, beauty and a glorious quality of being - of a communioned life.
Lovelessness is a disconnected sense of self-lack in isolation that restlessly seeks stimulating distraction in order to feel alive - and thus deadens itself and calls it 'satisfaction'. It then ups the stakes in order to get a hit or becomes addicted to reenacting empty rituals. Fantasy life that fucks up the capacity to look beyond outer forms and discover the truly wondrous nature of love - because a society that has become fearful has turned its back on love and instead seeks selfishly to grasp at whatever offers makes its pain subside - and hates to open to a light of a shared awareness. It hates to love - and loves to hate.
By being available outside a cultural context of relationship, pornography becomes culturally acceptable currency. Women have their labia cut to look like the girls in the porn. College kids emulating the porn scenarios that are purveyed as if women are dirty slut bitches and fit only to fist, fuck and cum all over as if that were a gift!
When does playing in - and exploring boundaries become the deception and abduction or coercion of sex slaves? Is it when we care more about maintaining our own fantasies than letting the truth of another - or of our self - interfere?
I am writing here because there is a much larger conversation about our sexuality, than socially induced consumerism, that extends a 'culture' of exploitation, manipulation, and usury - and calls it freedom. It is not talked openly - but referred to in comic tones - that let a sort of slapstick, gloss over and sanitize it as a 'bit o'fun'.
Now if a demeaning and malicious lie about you is propagated as if it were truth - you would not subscribe to it - nor would you nurture it - nor would you defend its right to be equal to the truth. Instead you would subscribe to that which promotes appreciation of truth, and invest your care and value in it. You might struggle long to come to your senses though as the cultural pressures suggest that its ok to fuck yourself up - or indeed anyone else - because we are free of outdated and phoney moral sensibilities - and "We are all individuals".
Distractions that serve to cover the dissonance of human life do not really give freedom - they bring hollow emptiness and addiction. However, with those whose full intent is to wilfully assert themselves as they are not - and declare themselves self-content - it is vain to argue. Life is a teaching - learning adventure - and we are free to learn through pain as well as joy. Forgiveness is a real release from guilt when one is willing to accept and share it. No one is damned but by their own refusal.
What we demonstrate in our lives - is the culture that we share - particularly to those who we welcome into the world and pass on the ways we know. All are free to learn according to their own heart's guidance - no matter what experiences we have - we ultimately choose the meaning it has for us.
But the Meaning that is uncovered that truly serves us all is not one of dressing up in the dark so as to play out our own psychodrama - but of a genuine kindness, care and attention.
I see the raising of the curtains of a false privacy as the disclosure to ourselves of ourselves - and this IS a real opportunity. Because amidst our self spun script of a life we act out as if it were real - and discover perhaps a lot later - that we chose against our own heart's desire.
There may be a lot of money in selling porn - but there is only an undermining of commonwealth. Is there a place for it? Of course there is - but if it is not kept in its place it usurps ... the capacity of Soul to feel and know life directly.
Thanks for your attention
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Sex without relationship is a bit like asset stripping. It seems alluring but hollows out the forms that could communicate life and love.
The real taboo in our society is intimacy whether sexual or on any other level.
Lack of intimacy is a disconnected, alienated sense of a self that leads to a search for substitutes of stimulation - as well as fantasy role play.
We long for a truly intimate sense of being - and yet look for it as if it could be 'added to our self' rather than opened up within our relationships with each other.
It isn't that I care to demonise the creative discovery of sexual communication - whose scope far exceeds the narrow approach of either stress release or fantasy.
But loveless habits of intention and attention, grown in the mind and enacted in the body can become deeply obstructive to the true sharing of defenceless trust in an innocence of being that delights in sharing and being the very life that moves us.
The internet - in part - is revealing the so called 'private mind'. The great thing about becoming aware of our mind, is that we can wake up to that we indulge self destructive thought - and uncover a willingness to let it go.
I'm not on a moral crusade here. I am saying that there is so much more to life than anything that the market seeks to induce you to consume and that market driven society has a vested interest in shaping your thought so that you can believe you a free independent person searching for and gaining happiness in a world that is here to fulfil your private gratifications.
The internet can offer an extra level of virtual reality to that already being acted out in a fantasy life. New ways to be distracted and new ways to access things in a couple of clicks that indulge an often otherwise forbidden experience - in fantasy.
Well I've little doubt that many folk meet up and take it another step and maybe they find someone who really cares for them - and maybe they don't care for anyone else excepting to get a hit off them. A lot of what comes to us in life is found because we are open to finding it.
If you get sick of yourself or your life - you might become open to listening deeper than the thinking that gets you sick. Real nakedness is a defenceless loving welcome. To give and to receive true welcome is NOT coercive, manipulative nor strategically motivated - it is loving. It's straight and its in the light of honesty.
The internet can also be used to communicate - like this. I really enjoy seeing happy people - rather than fearful, downcast or joyless people. So you are right - I have a vested interest here. Joy is your heart's freedom song. You're worth it - because they are. Thanks for your attention.