An advertorial on porn in the Telegraph - and its varied comments - invited another opportunity to reflect on some of what is within the idea of porn, association-addiction and manipulations of experience.
One can discern the quality of any civilisation, society or person by
the regard in which they hold the feminine. If the power of the
receptive is denied, subjugated and overridden by a disconnected
assertiveness of 'power' over - then slaves to fear seek to make a slave
of Life and believe they are free thereby.
They already have
their comeuppance. There is no punishment but what we make-believe
ourself and together. But that said, if our make-believe is believed to
hurt and hate and kill the truth of our love - then that belief will
dissociate us from ourself. This is part of the human conditioning. The
split mind does not know its source and is fed and feeds on adapting and
exploiting life rather than being and sharing it.
The nature of
addiction is similar to that of manipulation - indeed the manipulation
of one's experience (one's relations and one's world) for a private
experience in place of a truly shared one, is the way one cuts off or
'protects' from an intimacy of being, for the sake of a PRIVATE
possession or satisfaction. Mutual private satisfactions pass for relationships in a masquerade.
then is defined (by its act) as 'joy' - or indeed protection from pain
of boredom, doubt or discomfort. A 'joy 'that is not integrated or
unified, but is conflicted, dis-integrating to a segregated sense of a
temporary 'hit' of an energetically felt connection that is immediately
gone and thus calls for repeating or indeed expanding so as to prolong
its dedication and association. The pattern of desire, stress and
release becomes a ritual compulsion when choosing to persist in a
mechanically joyless act whilst at the same time insisting one is a
Wherever there is a giving away of power, there is no
shortage of other 'hungrys' willing to 'take you over' - whether
imaginary or corporate, for what you give out sets the value by which
you get back.
The world offers many examples of being taken over
by ideas, beliefs and definitions of self that are negative or
disintegrating. But to affect you, you have to subscribe to them. Joy
and truth are in bed together and there is nothing secret or shameful in
yielding into a wholly embracing love.