Is sexual orientation a choice?

Is sexual orientation a choice?

Is life a choice or 'something predestined'?
At some level this is utterly irrelevant - because life IS - and anything one attempts to define or interpret WHAT it is - is a choice that brings its experience of point of view. Within that point of view any following 'choices' will extend and support that point of view - until one shifts perspective by releasing the self-definition for another.
Popular conversation is so weighted to the idea of an independent personal ego - as if THAT is the creative agent or 'doer' - but within a world of matter and flesh that  effectively control it - that one cannot communicate about the Creative Template that embodies a deeper level of choice within which the personality extension operates.
BUt CHOICE in the sense of Creative Expression is the Movement of Being - whether this is operating unconsciously, in collective agreements or deliberately on purpose as an alignment with one's core vibrational signature.

So what does one GET out of believing this… or that? Every situation is unique and yet no one believes anything that doesn't give them a pay off at some level.

I decide that my life is Choice - not by asserting a coercive will, but by accepting and aligning with the current choice - so as to then be restored to the awareness of having choice. All else is conditioned reaction masquerading as choice - just as one can choose to forget or hide awareness of certain choices by rendering them unconscious and operating as if one is externally defined.
So why not embrace both - whilst recognising that however you define your relation to anything or anyone, your Existence is FACT that embraces all your choices. All identification confusion arises from covering over the felt quality of Existence Itself with mutual definitions . When this is uncovered, you know. You are not then compelled to seek outside yourself for validations or differentiations. Truly, choice is creative expression - but within a victim mentality becomes a defensive ingenuity of masking its lack of foundation.

Victim and victimising mentality operate as one choice within what could be called a power game. Who wants to play the game has no attention for what runs beneath the drama. Those within the game that try to impose rule upon others or indeed to undermine the rule of others are not changing the nature of consciousness, but only their perceptions and identification within the experience they are choosing.
One cannot HAVE an experience but that one chooses to define oneself in relation to what Consciousness or Existence Is. Most of such choice is unconscious to most human beings because they/we live what we call our conscious waking life within such a narrow surface focus.
When the definitions and meanings that had been accepted as 'Reality' become so shifting and complex as to break the rules of orthodoxy, there is a sort of 'anything goes' that allows an opportunistic and destructive appetite for power to play out. It also invites the re-evaluation of the nature of consciousness from beneath or beyond the 'power-game' of a conflicted and segregative consciousness.
In other words we are brought to a time of Choice as to whether to persist in the struggle of warring factions or reintegrate to a perspective that embraces all that we are.
Clearly choice as a concept can be used within a conflicted identity as a way of differentiating and asserting identity. But to truly embody a choice is to rest as one with it and not be offended or undermined by the persecutions of those who can not even see you.
A particular strand of political will seeks to introduce confusion as both a weakening and a distraction of its target. When one falls for a scam is it a choice - or is one truly a victim?
So many of the rules we make to keep us safe become a false sense of safety in which we are blindly herded in the direction of someone else's private agenda.
Perhaps it is truer and wiser to notice that one does not know who or what one is (in any conventional sense) - and so be free to uncover this in this very moment of existence - instead of running a template that has become corrupted by money lenders!

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The theme or template for a human lifetime might be a 'predestined choice' at a higher level - but the way one participates and expresses this remains a personal experience of free will within that lifetime.

There are as many ways to live your life as can be imagined and acted upon with conviction. But if imagination is subordinated to an external set of past conditionings called material reality - then choices will be somewhat limited.

The danger of making safe

Increase in number of casualties in 20mph roads as Cheltenham campaigners fight on


It has been observed that birds become conditioned by the average speed of traffic in any given stretch and it is no stretch to see that risk adjustments occur in both parties when travelling at such a slow speed.
Nothing is as safe as an awareness of danger, and nothing as dangerous as a safety that requires no or little personal awareness and responsibility.

The thinking of those who want to 'change the world' has ever ben the 'blind leading the blind' - because they want to change it to eliminate consciousness responsibility.

A managed society can indeed be herded and conditioned to fit the dictates imposed upon it - but the risk factors will ALWAYS restate themselves in other forms.

The breakdown of the sovereign will is the 'success' of the materialistic globalism which seeks to manage, herd and dictate Life in its own image. A fearful, negatively defining 'anti-life'.

What is in my view helpful is living and relating with due care and attention, rather than micro managing behaviours. A blame society cannot bring forth Good Fruit. Pluck it out from your own eye - but also give unto Caesar its due - but no more.

If it is chosen that human = machine, then stop pretending that we are good or bad according to dictates from the State and simply computerise our cars, our behaviours and our thoughts.

Real relationships are what align and organise our lives. There IS no substitute that qualifies as 'Life'.
Rule of law needs to embody the heart's discernment of become simply a carrot and stick dictatorship - regardless of what 'system' of  social or political form it takes.

Self-determination?

Further comment into conversation on the Daily Bell regarding the 'power of the powerless'.

'Self-determination' entirely depends on what is accepted and acted out from as the 'self'.

A material or externally defined sense of self not only substitutes for the Life - but then depends upon the denial of Life for its own seemingly 'independent' existence.

A true self-determination operates out of an open receptive consciousness. The filtered distortion asserts a 'self' that embodies the wish to coerce consciousness.

Until the social and political are recognised as reflecting our own consciousness-choices, the apparent conflicts are played out as a distraction device by which to persist in an illusion of 'independent identity'.

The recognition and acceptance of our true nature realigns the personality as an instrument of a re-integration instead of a segregation.

When one is being perfectly oneself, one can perceive all else as it is - and communicate without distortion.

While we play out the projection of unwanted and rejected self, we choose to fuel conflict as if it was freedom and survival - which it will seem to be, to the intent to persist in being what you are NOT.

You are your government. Power that has never left you does not have to be 'taken back'.

Because you ARE freedom, your word is law unto your own experience and your experience is your gift to the world. If you elect others to determine your thought and define you and your world, then it is by your choice and not their power.

We ARE always using our innate power 100%! - but are habituated to use it to define and believe ourself powerless and limited. Until we are curious as to what we GET out of victimhood - so as to re-evaluate our choosing, we will continue to employ it even while complaining that we are unfairly treated and thus relatively 'innocent'.

Waking up to the choices we are embodying - both personally and collectively - is the only way to recognize that choice is operating rather than victimhood and victimising. Moral coercions might mitigate and guide behaviours while a consciousness demands them - but do not help true seeing. One has to be able to look upon the desecration of one's own will in order to be restored AS unified will.

The tendency to point to the failings of others is the device that diverts attention from a self-awareness. Unless one is willing to own one's own thought and will - one cannot see clearly to serve the healing of another, but is part of the 'blind leading the blind' - which by definition will lead anywhere BUT to true appreciation.

The power of the powerless?

Wendy McElroy writes on the Power of the Powerless

I am always glad to see anything that invites a deeper perspective than surface tensions. Thankyou!

The wish to make life fit our own 'truths' is the basis of the self at the level of personality and 'tribe' or society. This IS coercive and will invoke a conflicted and fearful perception and identity. Within the framework of such an identity, 'truth' is just another prop or lever in a game of powers - rather than the Living Context of All That Is.

How can one 'lose' truth but as a loss of perspective, as a breakdown of communication within one's own consciousness that asserts a self-will upon Life instead of expressing a willingness within Life? All that is required to 'regain' truth is to release the identification with a false identification. However, this prisms all of the power of the Consciousness to a split mind that works both as victimizer AND victim. This level of consciousness is 'hidden' by many layers of defensive diversionary distraction.

When we look at the world - when we notice our own perceptions, they can serve as a direct reflection of otherwise 'hidden' consciousness or 'unconsciousness'. But few even realize they have the capacity to observe their own perception process of definition, emotion and identification - and so are focused exclusively within the 'game of powers'.

The power of illusion is the power of the mind in its capacity to define its own experience. The illusion of power is the confusion of identity within its own personality construct. While the latter is energized, the full creative power of Consciousness is put 'on hold' - yet it remains YOUR word that determines the experience you are receiving - and sharing.

When the stirring of awakening calls the mind always insists it has to 'do something else first' - and employs any kind of mental-emotional trigger to make its demand seem necessary. Yet THIS is the CHOICE moment of whether to observe our consciousness AS Consciousness or whether to persist in the split-off victim-victimizer that seen directly operates a deceptive insanity that no one in their right mind WOULD choose.

The attempt to 'change the world' tends to be the attempt to change the reflection in the mirror without any awareness of what underlies the reflection. And as such plays into the manipulations of any who can set up the 'wishes' of others to operate in service of their own private agenda. Thus coercive power consolidates itself at the expense of the true interest of others and at the expense of the 'otherness' of the Life that it depends on denying in order to seem to exist in its own right.

anti-racist fascist?

What exactly is racism? - an article in the Daily Bell that looks at the use of 'racism' as a coercive device of the State - although I don't give power to the State but to the ideas that it embodies.

My comment:

Whenever the identity of a 'good' (equality) can be defined over and against an identity 'evil' (subjugation of others on the basis of race (or any other qualifying filter of definition), a segregative mentality is invoked and engaged in the clothing of self-righteousness as self-justified and necessary to effect.

For such mentality - the 'enemy' may change and shift in shape constantly so as not to reveal the essential device or deception by which such self-illusion is maintained.

The compulsive dictate of a segregative consciousness is firstly and above all else; NOT to look within.

'Divide and rule' works firstly as an attack in the integrity of one's own consciousness and then patterns all else to its lens or distortion.

"Love thine enemy' is the reversal of the attack upon Consciousness.

For the mentality of fear, guilt and division HAS usurped the recognition of your very consciousness AS Consciousness Itself, and personalizes the self hating, self rejecting, self judging 'world' - as the veil or cover over its own consciousness responsibility - by which it feels temporarily protected.

Every situation and circumstance is a unique Life Expression - in and of and as - Consciousness. The mind that would 'step outside' so as to exert coercion or "lord it over" Life is the 'enemy of the world', or indeed the thinking of 'the world'.

The exposure of such mentality is necessary to owning that which we tried to deny and project onto others. Judging ourselves guilty or unworthy for having such thinking and feelings is the way to ensure that it is never exposed except as a fuel for an endless war ... on consciousness. Or more more accurately upon your own conscious awareness of Who And What You Are.

If you choose not to accept your reality as it is, then you will demand that it be different than it is, and your mind will supply the device by which your will is done - at least within your own private sense of experience. Free will is not a capacity of independence, so much as an inviolate quality of Being. You/one is free to accept your/one's brother or sister as they are, because of the will to define and judge them as they are not. When we mutually agree to such definitions, we 'create' an experience of a world that consciousness is subjugated to - whilst attempting to prevail over. This is 'materialism' or separation from God, Consciousness, All That Is. How the evils are distributed so as to validate the 'chosen' or special ones is the only game in town for materialism. Power corrupts - whoever happens to get a turn in the role. Corruption is the adulteration of truth with fantasy - with ideas and wishes that are given priority over true communication and become confused with truth thereby.

Communication is the direction of Reintegration. The mentality that would coercively assert 'right and wrong' upon the minds of others can only function as a disruptor of communication, because it is the refusal to look and listen within the heart.

Already making love

An article suggesting casual sex will make us happier


Our capacity for defenceless open innocent loving oneness is innate but tends to be lost to the mechanism of guilt, fear and hiding. A masked maze.

One can make fantasy associations and act them out as if they are true... for a while.

Two or more can mutually reinforce fantasy associations and make them seem more real - aka society.

Fantasy can reflect a war with 'truth' by asserting itself on others or at the expense of others - but it can also serve the reintegration of a unified consciousness.

Externally derived 'connections' and dependencies become the stuff of power-games, dependencies and addiction or dysfunctional breakdown of communication.

Find and be found in a true Foundation. Live from the resonance and relevance of your core being. Don't expect confusion to lead anywhere worth travelling. Instead let Real relating become the context in which confusion is undone.

Real or honest relating is in a sense "already making love"; receiving and giving as fully participant in what is already here in our Living Now.

If one presumes to push the River, a kind of 'eddy' seems to go off on in a mind spin until is dissolves. But it is a fantasy self -  a blind self - no matter how real its fearful compulsions are disguised.
You can align with your innate happiness or you can attempt to coerce a false substitute - but a substitute is merely a facade.

Guilt substitutes for a truly innocent perception but the undoing of guilt is not the act of the belief one need escape or overcome it - rather through the recognition and owning of one's own in a fresh willingness to truly share life rather than force it to serve your wish or will.