Lovelessness and pornography

Lovelessness - asserts it freedoms to abuse, exploit and worship fantasies upon life, upon others upon ones own body - as a substitute for real relationship - which it knows nothing of - and fears. It knows not an honouring, trust-growing, undefended, and loving relationship and lives out a distorted fantasy life in secret.


Sexual loving is a beautiful language of being. Our bodies are wonderful communicators of loving presence - as we allow ourselves to let go of strategic self interest - getting something or getting away from something - and discover ourselves caring, playing, and holding each other. Oneness is not a climax - it is the very ground of our being - shared. There is so much more to life than what we think we know - and that is experienced a wonder, beauty and a glorious quality of being - of a communioned life.


Lovelessness is a disconnected sense of self-lack in isolation that restlessly seeks stimulating distraction in order to feel alive - and thus deadens itself and calls it 'satisfaction'. It then ups the stakes in order to get a hit or becomes addicted to reenacting empty rituals. Fantasy life that fucks up the capacity to look beyond outer forms and discover the truly wondrous nature of love - because a society that has become fearful has turned its back on love and instead seeks selfishly to grasp at whatever offers makes its pain subside - and hates to open to a light of a shared awareness. It hates to love - and loves to hate.


By being available outside a cultural context of relationship, pornography becomes culturally acceptable currency. Women have their labia cut to look like the girls in the porn. College kids emulating the porn scenarios that are purveyed as if women are dirty slut bitches and fit only to fist, fuck and cum all over as if that were a gift!


When does playing in - and exploring boundaries become the deception and abduction or coercion of sex slaves? Is it when we care more about maintaining our own fantasies than letting the truth of another - or of our self - interfere?


I am writing here because there is a much larger conversation about our sexuality, than socially induced consumerism, that extends a 'culture' of exploitation, manipulation, and usury - and calls it freedom. It is not talked openly - but referred to in comic tones - that let a sort of slapstick, gloss over and sanitize it as a 'bit o'fun'.


Now if a demeaning and malicious lie about you is propagated as if it were truth - you would not subscribe to it - nor would you nurture it - nor would you defend its right to be equal to the truth. Instead you would subscribe to that which promotes appreciation of truth, and invest your care and value in it. You might struggle long to come to your senses though as the cultural pressures suggest that its ok to fuck yourself up - or indeed anyone else - because we are free of outdated and phoney moral sensibilities - and "We are all individuals".


Distractions that serve to cover the dissonance of human life do not really give freedom - they bring hollow emptiness and addiction. However, with those whose full intent is to wilfully assert themselves as they are not - and declare themselves self-content - it is vain to argue. Life is a teaching - learning adventure - and we are free to learn through pain as well as joy. Forgiveness is a real release from guilt when one is willing to accept and share it. No one is damned but by their own refusal.


What we demonstrate in our lives - is the culture that we share - particularly to those who we welcome into the world and pass on the ways we know. All are free to learn according to their own heart's guidance - no matter what experiences we have - we ultimately choose the meaning it has for us.


But the Meaning that is uncovered that truly serves us all is not one of dressing up in the dark so as to play out our own psychodrama - but of a genuine kindness, care and attention.


I see the raising of the curtains of a false privacy as the disclosure to ourselves of ourselves - and this IS a real opportunity. Because amidst our self spun script of a life we act out as if it were real - and discover perhaps a lot later - that we chose against our own heart's desire.


There may be a lot of money in selling porn - but there is only an undermining of commonwealth. Is there a place for it? Of course there is - but if it is not kept in its place it usurps ... the capacity of Soul to feel and know life directly.


Thanks for your attention

Freedom, trust and honesty - wikileaks

The personification of issues whether via the hero’s halo or the smear of shame is irrelevant and serves only to obscure a current movement in consciousness.

The way to enjoy and appreciate freedoms is to exercise them, wholeheartedly.

We are not free to make the truth be what we say it is and then act out from that as if we are acting legitimately - no matter what degree of coercive intent we may bring to bear. For when we do so we are suffering deception - and 'inviting' contagion. This is the loss of true freedom for ‘a lead role in a cage’.

Governments acting in secret assure their citizens in public that they are protecting and serving them. If through disclosure they are shown to be hypocrites - then let it be an opportunity to regain a sane and legitimate basis for communication and governance. Not tomorrow but henceforth.

The mind that fights against - is trapped in the very argument as defined by its 'believed' or chosen opponent.

Standing for or giving witness to truth - is worthy of trust when it is an expression of a peaceful intent - for taking 'sides' is a way of asserting one’s identity wilfully rather than discerning the real in receptive willingness to discover. Of course others will perceive according to their choice.

All are equally deserving of the awareness of truth - and the truth is not as we would make it or spin it to ourselves. Truth is not deception. Its tangibility is associated with the absence of fear and the presence of trust.

The illegitimacy of deception may give rise to a sense of an evil intent and therefore a justified enmity. But only truth reveals illegitimacy in terms of correction. The ‘deceiver’ can use everything including disclosure of truths to serve a hidden agenda. Therefore be free of a hidden agenda.

The mind that seeks to use guilt - blame and shame - against others and thereby feel self validated is yet playing out a deeper private agenda of misplaced self interest in which it sleeps. There are fears beneath the surface that work to KEEP secret - to keep hidden - from awareness. It is here that the real work is engaged that is also reflected in the world we share.

The complexity and sheer impossibility of maintaining a masked reality means that there are disclosures and leaks - and these are usually dealt with by distraction and denial so as to 'restore normal reality'. I'm not talking now about the U.S - but about all of US.

The kinds of cultural shift that are genuinely NEEDED - come through discerned opportunities that are TAKEN. Don't wait for your leaders.

Meanwhile Tweedledee and Tweedledum provide our sport - while we play brinkmanship with a Great Tar Barrel!

There are of course many layers of meaning through such events as are unfolding - but a true priority is more likely to arise from a calm and connected heart and mind.

That the human mind is given to tricksy deceit whereby it takes on and is thereby taken in - is not news - except to us who are waking up to that we've been party to it. Don't try to hide that from your awareness or invest it with guilt.

The story of Jesus gives example of how to 'deal' with hypocrites and trick questions - and yet to be patiently dedicated in educating and serving to the genuine willingness of others - regardless of their apparent status.

He did not do so by using guilt against them to unseat them - and thereby gain the upper hand. Quite the opposite - he Lived guiltlessness to those who suffered their own sin and freed them of the need to believe it as their truth.

He didn't 'do' this so much as be unwilling to 'do' otherwise - and then trusted the movement of being that expressed itself as helpfulness, wholeness and healing.

A true peace can come only from honesty - and for this - the internal divisions whereby we like to maintain private agendas secret even from ourselves must be freely - step by step - undone.

When the mind that spins in its own deceits seeks to broadcast - let it be discerned and disregarded - so that attention can be wholly given to listening for true guidance in the need of the current situation as it truly is.

This is a matter of practicing so as to bring forth the basis from which we live. For what we demonstrate - or ‘teach’ - teaches us.