Control of urges

Australian imam says women need to wear the hijab because men can't control their sexual urges

Originally and article in the Daily Mail I met it on SOTT and commented also into the emotional reactivity of commenting there. I don't recommend the article - but this theme is a key area of awakening responsibility on whatever level.


Control of urges.

When anyone or anything 'presses my buttons' is it their act or choice (intended or otherwise) that causes my reaction?
Or is my experience my co-creative responsibility and power?
If blame appeals as the way to disempower or block 'denied, hated, or feared communications or exposures - then the wish to take offence hides in the mask of the righteously wronged.

The social construct for the censoring, filtering and suppression of urges is our upbringing - both conditioning of direct learning experience - and inducted and imposed family and social mores and rules.

The blaming of women for triggering desire in men is the giving away of power by men.
The 'self-confessed weakness' of men is passed off as if a fact - albeit assigned to 'other' weaker men than the one who acts the apologist for giving way to fantasy thoughts.
Not that triggers cannot be activated by design as manipulative deceit. For manipulating deceit is the nature of corrupted human thinking and society. But that given acceptance as true, any deceit spreads and propagates to rob a wholeness of being - and relations. Because of such insight - the attempt to punish special forms of deceit - as evil - if to protect - and be The Protector - of the Sanctity of Life - teaches fear of 'evil' and delivers us unto 'evil' - while under the belief or mask of attempting self-righteousness - or correctness - relative to our personal and social setting.

Yet there is one thing that aligns us true - that no amount of 'self-control' can ever achieve - and that is the honouring of Another as our Self. Those who are convicted in self-unworthiness cannot or will not see a true worth in Another - excepting a conditional acceptance within accepted forms of conduct or appearance. The breaking of such 'rules' or demands meeting withdrawal of 'love' and triggering of hate.

No amount of blaming and targeting will ever put wholeness together again. Regardless how intensely the wish to deny, exclude and reject the hated or feared or shaming. But we are created in wholeness as the urge of the desire and willingness to live. And while this holds the 'survival' urge within itself - it is not merely the urge to survive, mate and compete for survival and mating.

The suppression of our true desire to know and be known operates the false or masked sense of getting from - and of course 'getting away from'. The 'Paradise' symbol for many men is the woman - whose archetype is deeper than the thinking personality level. But Paradise is the feint memory of lost wholeness in a world of false and fought over substitutions. Resisting the temptation to act out fantasy scripts on others - even in thought - is the cultivation of mindfulness or free awareness in which to discern true relation in place of triggered dissociation.

The fragmentation of the personality construct is socially enforced as narrative control but generally experienced as an incoherent and conflicted world. Narrative identity is the 'tyranny' of unchallenged thinking that runs human beings as conditioned reaction without free awareness in which to discern love's recognition. While the narrative identity is fed and supported in a role of self-specialness - it runs as a blind-spot to its own thought, act and deed - because it is acting out fantasy gratification for a sense of self-lack being vindicated and compensated for.

Psychology has tended to follow the dissociations of the 'scientific' analysis - with its own blind-spot from which fantasy treatment subjects those in need to further reinforcements of self-lack and sickness. Psychic-emotional relationship is awake within as free attention and awareness - in a shared appreciation of reality. For we always co-create our interaction and experience - whether that is an aligned and shared appreciation or a conflicted and conflicted sense of negative appreciation of hate, blame, fear and defence.

Thank You for your attention.