https://celiafarber.substack.com/p/what-they-said-marshall-rosenberg/comments
#1
Praise and blame are the basis for a social debit system of control. Or a guilt based presumption of existence set in drive for external validation or vindication as a 'getting mechanism' or survival strategy.
To thank or praise God, Creator or Innate and Original Nature for being is giving due to truth so as to abide in remembrance of our true being. If we mis-take the image, form, agent or principal for truth we give due unto power set in the world of imaged rather than felt reality, and receive identity in the like kind or measure of our giving.
When thanking or praising another for their willingness and witness for life, we are thanking God or the Source of life, for radiance has no strings attached to its giving and deserves appreciation by acceptance for God by the receiver.
On the contrary the use of virtue signalling as the outer forms of praise or appreciation is a manipulative leveraging of judgements by which to mask a private getting agenda in the 'acceptability' of whatever social idiom being affected.
The 'evil eye' of envy sees what it believes it lacks, in others and seeks to steal it, by flattery or self-depreciations set as invocation for sympathy.
I like the simplicity of 'it takes one to know one'.
This calls us to match the vibration of those who inspire us, or attune in compassion to those who are blinded by lack to attack truth in order to protect a pain they are not even aware of. For even if I do not join in the current set of choices or conditionings that another is enacting, I can join with their right to be and the freedom to make choices, as part of unfolding experience or consciousness in which to live and be. For I know the proclivity of the mind as a means for-getting and would release that in myself by no longer wanting to project it to others as guilt by which to claim relative 'innocence'. True innocence is looking at what is, as it is, in willingness to recognise truth. From the recognition, love spontaneously arises and blesses all involved. A limited sense of life may think one is the doer or giver and set them 'up'. This is never true but in appearances. Setting people up, can only prepare the fall guy. We set ourselves up to fail, over and over, yet look outside for the perpetrators. As a social agreement, this generates a 'blame game' or presumption of guilt and imminent retribution, that takes ever shifting forms, while power struggle for positioning such as to deal or redirect sin & blame rather than pay its demand for sacrifice.
I don't like the phrase non-violent because it takes meaning from what it is NOT.
Living relational being is already Communication on all levels and prior to the establishment of 'levels' of consciousness. Recognising weaponised language is the opportunity to choose not to use it or let it run as accepted currency in our mind and our witnessing. But not the right to accuse another of sin and attack them for it as a short circuit of our own healing into a false sense of self-righteousness set in hate given power.
#2
True need unfolds fulfilment. Lack-needs seek external fulfilment.
A Course in Miracles is not written for a better understanding of the world, yet in the appreciation of true need met, our mind and world are revealed, redeemed, reintegrated.
The assignations to ego or personality masking level for who you - we - truly are can be and are misapplied. It really is a matter of where identification and appreciation for being come from, give to and share reflection.
Jesus used the Father' Will for the true need, call and gift of the moment at hand.
This opened a way that was no conflict of wills but the release of conflict to true willing (ness) freely given.
We are so used to thinking, seeing and reacting from a sense of defended and masked lack - that we assert ITS needs as our own. A parasitic and self defeating sense of lack-driven addiction to external conditions as the basis for accepting and loving existence is exactly backwards.
Weaning from such habits from the shared witness of the miracle is a revealing of my true need and desire from under the masking against the pain of love lost, indeed love made weak, treacherous or false.
Recognising your need as my own is not thinking about how to please you or make you feel better. In recognition is true feeling restored and I thank you for the release of a mask of thinking from an appreciation of shared being - but not shared separatenesses each apportioned their lot.
Ego/jackal defences do the thing they seek to protect as self fulfilling desires and expectations. We don't think our desire is met when we choose to hold grievance and WANT to be right, and even 'love' to hate. Yet our will is done even while we protesteth much!
I love Marshal Rosenberg's witness and exemplification of compassionate communication, but I choose my own vernacular or rather tune in to the worlds and phrase that serves the moment at hand from the gift that is given me to share in.
#3
The Ego as a framework of needs, starts with its own self-making or core definitions and beliefs. Within such frameworks we live through a 'reality' distortion filter with normalised or conditioned and internalised structures of 'getting' - as substitution for true need.
A conceptualised framework is already a 'getting' set for definition as a means of control. But our mind can be renewed and repurposed to express alignment of implicate wholeness of giving and receiving as one. Synchronicity is the basis for re-cognition of true need, because instead of seeking on basis of a past in a modelled future as the framing of a presentation, we connect with what is rather than what we think to be. This may be useless to those invested in fixing the world, as vindication or validation of a self sense of dissonance. But presence is never useless to any endeavour in which we have given commitment and engage as a teaching learning experience.
